Many couples wonder how to write wedding vows.
Despite the popularity in writing your own wedding vows, it is a very big job. It is your chance to tell your love story as well as tell your family and wedding guests what makes your relationship so special. Also it is a way for you to express your love, commitment and promises to one another.
This task could be very overwhelming, but don’t fear! Here are a few ideas on how to write wedding vows and what you might want to say.
Talk to your partner about your wedding vows.
Before starting your vows, talk to your significant other about the specifics of them. You want to be on the same page about the format and tone of your vows. You want to know what your wedding vows will be like, because sometimes it may affect the rest of the planning of your wedding.
Few things to talk about:
- How long will your vows be?
- Will you incorporate any jokes?
- Will you use any religion or tradition elements?
- Are the vows going to be poetic and romantic?
Don’t wait till the last minute.
You don’t have to start writing your vows the day that you decided on your wedding date. But you also don’t want to wait till the last minute. The best time is about a month before your wedding. By that time, most of the planning will be done and you can concentrate on this important task.
Write it all down.
Writing your vows down will help you to come up with a structure. You can break your vow into a few parts. Here is an example of one kind of structure:
- Love affirmation
- Praise your partner
- And close with a final big vow
Write a few drafts
Make sure your wedding vows are not too long.
Keep it under two or three minutes. Even though it is a very, if not the most important part of the wedding, it does not mean that you should drag it out for half an hour. Meaningful things should be said once and not repeated over and over. Pick a few great thoughts that are important to you. And if you have more, a great place to put them will be in a gift or a letter to your partner that you can give on the morning of your wedding day.
Here are few things you might want to add to your vows.
- What is the best thing about the person you are going marry?
- What do you love most about him or her?
- When did you know he or she was the one?
- What does the marriage mean to you?
- What will change with the marriage?
- Favorite memory
- Does your partner match your childhood dreams of husband or wife?
- Talk about your first date
- Favorite qualities
Make promises to your partner.
This is your chance to tell your significant other that you will always be there no matter what. Make sure to say “I vow to always support you”, “I promise to always be there for you no matter what”. Promise that you will always show your love and respect.
Mention things that are ahead of you and you are excited to do together.
The future is where the two of you are headed. So talk about your aspirations and desires for the two of you. Where do you see yourselves in 10, 20, 40 years?
Practice saying your wedding vows.
It might sound strange, but you must practice. You will be in front of many people. Standing at the altar, nervous and excited. Also a lot of times things will sound great in your head and then won’t sound that great when you say them out loud.
And don’t forget the the most important thing!
When you are at the altar, saying your vow, make sure to look your partner in the eyes. After all it is to him or her that you are devoting yourself from now on.